…but words can never hurt me.

An email has been circulating that proposes a cough method of self CPR. It says that if you recognize the signs of a heart attack you can do cough CPR on yourself before you lose consciousness. I am not promoting this, as the success of this method is questionable and snopes.com claims it is false.

We cannot make our own heartbeat, we can however, destroy it. We have the power to kill and destroy our hearts all on our own but we do not have the power to bring it back to life on our own. We do however have both the power of life, and death, in our tongues. Our words have the power to bring life to a person, to a conversation, or to our own soul. Remember saying the words “I do,” did that not change your life forever? Or hearing the verdict, “Guilty!” would that not change your world? Proverbs 18:21 says, “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit” (NIV).

Our everyday words have the power of life and death as well. When gossip is sweeping through a conversation and you stop it with a phrase, does that not bring life to the person who was being destroyed? When someone in your family is telling you their dream and vision and you open your mouth and stomp on it, does that bring life or death to the dream? My own personal snopes.me would discredit the old saying, “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.” Words bring health and healing, or death and destruction, to those who speak them and to those that hear them.

Want to know how you’re doing in the verbal life and death department? Look at the fruit, the outcome, of your words. The Message Bible puts it like this, “Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose.” Whatever you choose will have an outcome. “Pleasant words are …health to the body” (Prov 16:24). Speaking life and health to others and yourself, now THAT is self CPR!

From Loving to Living


I have a lot of loves in my life. My God, my husband, my family and friends, and yes, my dog too. Then there are all those things I love to do. I love to ride, motorcycles and horses, I love snorkeling, good music, spending time with friends, live theatre (Yes that is how Canadians spell it) and musicals.

  • Then there are those things that I think I love.
  • I love the idea of being fit, but seldom exercise.
  • I love the idea of having lots of books but don’t read often enough.
  • I love the idea if writing but put it off repeatedly.

It reminds of the tree in this picture. It looks like it started growing up and then got side tracked. It meant to be a straight, tall tree but time passed and it got harder and harder to straighten out so it just made the best of it.

There is one other love that I sometimes let slide. I love the idea of knowing God, really knowing Him, and hearing Him speak to me, but there are days I put Him off and ignore Him. Oh, I can be hard on others if they are not faithful but still want God’s blessing. The Word is very clear, “Blessed is the one who does not slow down… stand around… or sit down” but “instead his delight (pleasure) is in the law of the Lord, and he meditates (a deep, serious, focused, thoughtfulness) on it day and night” (Psalm 1:2). That person, the one who really loves God and His Word, will be like a tree solidly planted by the river… bearing fruit in each season of life, reaching their God-designed-purpose and destiny.

The distance between loving an idea and living the idea makes a huge difference in the outcome. Loving the right thing and then pursuing it with all I am, provides the destination and the motivation. The God of all creation says, “Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength” (Deut 6:5 NIV). What an invitation, “Love Me!” God says, love Me with everything you are and you will see that I am for you not against you.

Loving God is a really good idea, when done wholeheartedly!